Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Three Years

Three years ago today...I married my wonderful husband. Three years ago today...I decided to embark on a journey with my best friend.  Three years ago today...I made a commitment to honor, respect and cherish my husband.  Three years ago today...I made the best decision of my life.  

I am not going to sit here and paint a fake picture of roses and rainbows when it comes to marriage.  Marriage is tough...marriage is work...marriage is challenging, but I can honestly say that I love the man I married more today than three years ago at the alter.  Why?  Because those challenges have only made us stronger and I've been able to witness (time and time again) the patience, love and kindness of my husband.  Not a day goes by that he doesn't exhibit the love of Christ towards me even when I'm undeserving. 

He is an incredible father to Aubrey Lane, even more so than I could have ever hoped for.  He's not afraid to change horrible diapers, give baths after an impromptu playtime in the toilet, dance with Bre for half an hour, or be the disciplinarian that she needs. He's willing to do late night feedings, carry my breast pump for me (ha ha...funny story I'll have to share) or rock a sick baby to sleep at 3:00 in the morning.  He has exceeded my expectations.

The other day I had a horrible morning, I had just started back to work and leaving Aubrey was very hard for me.  I was rude to Christian all morning and then left the house crying because I wanted to stay home with my baby.  Christian very well could have been rude right back to me or told me to suck it up...it's just partime...but no...I came home to flowers and a sweet card telling me it would all work out and things would get easier.  The next morning I got in my car to find a framed photo of myself and Aubrey with a card that said, "for your desk at school...Aubrey is always with you".  His patience and kindness never ceases to amaze me.

Again, I'm not saying it's all happy all the time.  We fight, we argue, we disagree...but at the end of the day we are so in love and so cheering for one another.  In marriage, we have to remember this one truth, WE ARE ON THE SAME TEAM.  It's not me against him or who wins or loses.  Nope.  We are one team fighting for one cause...for our family to bring glory and honor to Christ.

We are growing and learning on our journey.  As new parents, we are having to move our marriage back into the forefront and learn that our marriage is the foundation that comes first...before children...because without that solid rock, our family will crumble.  Aubrey needs to see a strong, united couple more than anything.

Psalms 127:1 says, "Unless the LORD builds the house, the builders labor in vain". That verse has spoken to me tremendously because Christian and I can build and labor to our hearts content, but because we are two imperfect people we will never make it on our own. In order for our marriage to succeed...we must allow God to take control. I don't know about you, but I don't want to just be married or get by...I want my marriage to flourish and bring glory to God in the process. 

If the next 30 years are half as much fun as the first 3...then I can't wait! Happy Anniversary Christian Lane!  I love you! 

As a side note...Our anniversary is August 29th which is the anniversary of Hurricane Katrina and now Hurricane Isaac.  I'm thinking it is a sign.  Our love is like a hurricane.  Fierce and strong...a force not to be messed with...haha!  


  1. happy anniversary! what a great post!! what a blessing :)

  2. LOL! Love that last sentence! Haha. Love this post, too! That is SO sweet what he did after you were upset about leaving Aubrey! :) :) :)

    Y'all be safe! And happy anniversary!

  3. He is a keeper! Carl tells me all.the.time that we are on the same team. Hope you enjoyed your anniversary!